Adult Online Dating Service – When You Shouldn’t Join One

Hundreds of thousands of singles join adult online dating services every month. Many of these singles make the mistake of upgrading their membership too early. This then leads them into thinking that adult dating services only want your money, but that’s not the reason that they upgraded too early.

When most singles join any dating service they create a profile which generally doesn’t have a photo. When you join an adult dating service, and your profile doesn’t contain a photo you usually start getting contacted on the first day of joining. This usually happens to the male singles. Never join any dating service thinking you have other singles wanting to get to know you when you haven’t even got a photo on your profile. Anyone contacting you like this is after more than getting to know you online, and it’s not for a night of passion.

What you also find is the women that contact you are pretty hot, the reason for this is they are probably models. They contact new members of adult dating services to attract you to their own paid web sites. At the end of the day they are selling themselves, and trying to make a living. It’s at the expense of new singles to the online dating game though.

Another reason you will get contacted can be the single lady wants you to send her money. They’ll say it’s so they can pay for a flight to come and see you. Some men fall for this because they think they’re met a really hot woman online. Once the money is sent you won’t meet her, and you won’t see your money again. She will just move onto someone else. With the most popular adult online dating services having over 20 million members they have a lot of singles to choose from.

The right time to join an adult dating service is when you have given at least two of the web sites a good go first with your free trial. Use these to see how many singles you have living in your area that you would like to contact. Once you have found enough singles you can then upgrade your membership and start sending emails.

Fake Profiles and Adult Online Dating Service Scams

I see a lot of posts around the internet regarding the large adult online dating services complaining about two major things: Fake Profiles, and Scams. I really think that most people have unrealistic expectations when they join one of these sites, and I also feel that maybe some people are so desperate (or so horny) that they choose not to use common sense when it comes to whom they decide to contact from one of these sites.

Fake Profiles

As long as there are online dating/social networking sites, there will be fake profiles. Who puts them there is anybody’s guess, but I have my suspicions. The prevailing conspiracy theory is that the people who own the sites are putting the fake profiles up, with hot young women (or men) promising all manner of sexual deprivation or whatever to get people to sign up for a paid membership. I don’t think this is the case at all. I’ve gotten pretty good at spotting fake profiles, and one thing that most of them have in common is that they have links to sites outside of the site on which they are posted. This leads me to believe that these fake profiles are instead spammers or virus jockeys, trying to get you to click to an external site so that they can either obtain your email address or infect your computer with viruses.

Another common tactic is to send a message from their profile to yours asking you to hook up with them and offering you their yahoo or msn messenger ID right off the bat. This should be a HUGE red flag for you. If you look closely at most of them, you will note that many of the emails that are supposedly coming from several different profiles actually contain the same messenger ID. You should report these users to the site administrators immediately and move on, looking for members with real profiles.

Scams

This is probably the area that frustrates and amuses me the most. I see a lot of posts where this service or that service charged them for a membership, then offered them no way to cancel their membership, or continued to charge them after they cancelled their membership. I have paid for (and subsequently canceled) memberships with Fling.com, SexSearch.com, and AdultFriendFinder.com, and none of these sites have used such tactics with me. In fact, I found that if you just read the Terms and Conditions (“Who reads that stuff anyway?” You do, if you’re smart), and follow their directions on what to do to cancel your membership, you will have no such billing problems.

I’ve also frequently heard the complaint that “I paid for membership, and I didn’t get one single date”. There could be many different reasons for this. It could be that your approach needs some work. More than 9 times out of 10 the now-infamous “want to f–k?” email will not work. Try actually striking up a conversation via email, or join one of the chat rooms and establish rapport with someone and see if you don’t get some better results. It could also be that the people you’ve contacted just aren’t interested in you. This does happen, and often. The only recourse you have is to move on and contact someone else. You don’t really think that the first person you contact is just going to show up naked on your doorstep ready to have sex with you, do you? If you do, well, I don’t really have any advice for you.

So, there you have it. As long as there are online dating sites, there will be fake profiles. All it takes is a little common sense and a little time to weed those out and find the real ones. Anything worth doing is worth doing right, and that often involves time and a little bit of work. As far as scams are concerned, all you need to do is read the Terms and Conditions and follow their instructions, and you’ll be fine. And, most of all, don’t believe everything you read, and don’t the bad experiences of a few (which are largely self-inflicted or self-perceived) ruin your chance to find what you’re looking for. Get out there and join some online dating services and as always, happy hunting!

Tips To Make Good Free Adult Personal Ads

I want to share with you top tips for getting casual sex by creating killer personal ads on the worlds biggest adult personals site, Fling. Now Fling have thousands of members in their personals community actively seeking sex partners. Chances are that if you live in the U.S you have at least 50,000 to 100,000 members practically on your doorstep. What I’m going to do is show you how to use their totally free personal ads to get yourself laid. Within literally hours of reading this article it is highly possible you will have hundreds of people wishing to contact you. The most responses I have personally had is 214 in the second hour of creating my free profile.

The Secret Is A Killer Personals Profile

Now the idea is to create a truly award-winning profile. Trust me, if you create an effective profile you will have people sending you messages within hours, sometimes minutes of actually joining the site. I’m going to show you exactly how you can achieve this and you will be shocked at the simplicity of the techniques.

Be Noticed With A Unique Personal Pic

The first thing you will need is a good pic. You can upload more pics but, honestly, one is all you need. Why? Because you are going to use this pic to catch people’s attention! This will be your default photo. Your other photos can be average because they will be seen after you have created a great initial impression.

Now most profile pics you see are just so very boring and just like thousands of others. You need to be different and, at the same time, ensure that you look attractive. It does not matter if you’re not quite as beautiful as Eva Longoria or as handsome as Brad Pitt – because neither are 99.99% of people out there, let’s face it! What is important is to show yourself looking your best in an interesting pose that captures the eyes of people browsing the fling personal ads.

Let me give you a couple of examples of what not to do before I tell you what you should do.

Do not take pics of yourself in any of the following poses : in extreme close-up, waving in the mirror, showing only “part” of your body, sat with your mom or – worse yet – your ex-wife.

A picture tells a thousand words. So, ask yourself now, what would someone like about yourself that you can promote in your pic? Perhaps you’re a very clever person, well-educated and well-read. In this case, take a pic of yourself covered in a pile of books, giving your best winning smile. This will show your fun side as well as your intellectual side! But maybe you’re not into books? Maybe you like sports? Fantastic! You will want to show off your athleticism as well as your funny, approachable, human side. Here’s an idea in this case: You could hold a ball covering the lower half of your face where your month would go and, drawn on the ball, could be a big smiley mouth!

Just because this is a sexual encounters site, does not mean that you have to look sexy because people are attracted to intellect, humor and so many more attributes as well as looks.

So I think by now you get the picture – and excuse the pun! Your photo needs to look different from the norm in order to stand out from the crowd, whilst also promoting your sense of humor and whatever other likable characteristics there are about yourself.

Snappy Headline And Self-Description

What comes next is your self-description. Again it is all-important to stand out from the crowd. Be funny, be whacky, be a nice person someone would want to meet.

The best way to start is with a great headline! So many people on adult personals sites use headlines like Single Guy Seeking Single Girl, Divorced Woman Looking For Loving. One word, folks: Boring! I promise you, the combination of a great headline and eye-catching profile photo will, without a doubt, make your personals ad more visible than 90% of all the others on Fling. Another killer tip is to turn your headline into a question! Believe me, sometimes it is almost irresistible to not look at a profile with a great question-headline. Now combine your photo and headline with a winning description and you are in the top 1% of those most visible on Fling personals.

Your descrition should be pretty short. A couple of pithy paragraphs will do. Promote your good points but – and this is the key, people – be funny! Now, sure, no one’s expecting you to be Jim Carey, and maybe you’re not entirely funny in real life, but for a personals ad to be effective you need to show off your humorous side. It relaxes people and makes you instantly approachable. And that is what we want. We want someone to see your snappy headline and click to read your profile, then be blown away by a charming photo and, when it comes to the description, be made to feel comfortable about approaching you as well as intrigued to do so.

Success With Your Free Adult Personals Ad

Now with of members members hoping to get laid and a fantastic, super-duper, personals ad, you are going to soon find a pile of mail in your inbox. Hundreds of responses in the first hour is not impossible – I’ve seen it happen! People have reported as many as 800 responses in their first hour. And the fantastic thing about this is you have not paid anything, not a single cent, and yet you have hundreds of people practically beating down your door for a date!

Now I know for a fact that lots of people are using these tips. So act now and get in on the fun. I would be willing to bet you have thousands of men or women right in your zip code areas who would really want to meet up with you. I put in a search for myself and there was actually 187,000 people within 100 miles of where I live. Now even if only 1 percent of them want to meet me, that’s still 1870 people!

Adult Online Dating Services – Why Are They So Popular

Sex online dating services are by far the most popular dating services on the internet at the moment. Hundreds of thousands of singles go out every weekend to hopefully find a partner to take home for a one night stand. A sex online dating service is a central hub for all these singles to meet without the need to go out looking for their catch.

More singles are realizing the benefits of meeting someone online first. They want the safety of chatting to someone online first while they’re sober, and in full control of their senses. Meeting someone online first after viewing their profile gives you an idea of what the person is like before you have to chat to them. Questions are answered for you before a word is spoken so you don’t wonder why you started talking to them in the first place.

The cost of meeting singles for sex online is a lot more value as well. A months subscription is less than one night out, and you have the chance of searching through thousands of profiles. That’s more singles than you could meet in a whole year going down the club route. And you have the advantage of knowing all of the profiles are of singles that are already looking for sex. This can save a lot of time talking to someone all night only to find out they just want to be friends.

The only disadvantage of meeting someone on the internet for sex is you can’t just leave and go off somewhere. You have to make arrangements first. This is where you’re safety is a lot better with meeting online for sex instead of a club or bar. A club or bar meeting can put you in a position that you can’t get out of, and may regret later.

There are plenty of reviews online for sex dating services. These services are so popular anyway that they must be doing something right. You will find thousands of singles looking for sex in your area if you live in or near a major city or state. Creating your profile will take you about 5 to 10 minutes. Then you have the chance of being contacted by the thousands of singles in your area. It could open up a whole new chapter in your life. It will be a big change from having the choice of a few singles at a club on a Saturday night.

Ideal Age For Online Chat Rooms Must Be Respected

It is true that we have so many topics to chat about. But more often or not, we usually find that chat rooms have the topic of sex coming along the way. Because we are parents who really mind the well being of their children, we must never involve ourselves into allowing our children to log into sites that are specific on the age of members.

Why you need to be strict

The internet is an invention of man. Children of today have learned that you can trick the internet so that it gives you access to what you want. So, you would sometimes find that children would sign in on sites that require adults only as adults. They would exaggerate their ages so that they are adults.

However, this is something we cannot fully prevent but we can control it. When we monitor what our children are surfing in the internet and restrict them to what we do not want them to watch. We can also talk to them politely so that they understand the need to watch limits.

On the other hand, the owners or managers of cyber cafes can try to see that they restrict access to such sites for under 18 year olds. When these are done, there is little hope that at least, not all will access the sites that are for adults only. The children will therefore be allowed to chat only on the sites of their age mates.

No regrets later

Respecting the age of chatting at certain sites will minimize the hurt that comes with cheating. Sometimes, we would usually feel hurt when you realize that the person you have been chatting to is not real. Maybe they are younger or older than who you thought they are.

Even though people may also cheat on the descriptions they give about themselves as they register on the sites, it is quite important that everyone takes individual responsibility. This means that they will not cheat others and the others will not cheat them. For chatting to bring fun, there should be honesty.

It starts will individual persons. It is your responsibility to ensure that you never cheat other room mates. They must know the truth about you. In stead of lying about some details, it is better that you keep them to yourself. I mean, you will not be penalized for keeping them secret.

We all have a part to play in ensuring that the live chat we are longing for is in its best form. When we are all responsible, we will begin to appreciate the importance of turning to live chat when we are bored. As the name suggests, it will make us live again.

The sharing that we would enjoy at online chatting will ensure that all our psychological needs are catered for. So, we need to respect the age restrictions and sometimes location and gender barriers at the chatting sites.